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As the title says, welcome to my blog! This is the place to find out what's happening with PostScript as a business, but more often it's here to give you some entertainment, some knowledge, some insight on subjects I'm passionate about or, failing that, just somewhere to pass the time.
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Is a Eulogy More for the Living Than the Dead?
I believe there is a quiet paradox at the heart of every funeral. We gather to honour someone who cannot hear us. We write carefully chosen words for a person who will never read them. We stand at a lectern, voice trembling or steady, and speak into a room full of people, not to the one we have lost, but to those who remain. So I think there's a profound, maybe even unsettling question to be asked which is who, really, is a eulogy for? Traditionally, we are taught that a eulo
5 days ago8 min read
Can You Read a Eulogy If You’re Not a Family Member?
Funerals are, at their heart, deeply personal occasions. They are spaces where grief, memory, love and legacy converge, often within a structured ceremony that asks someone to stand up and speak on behalf of a life lived. Traditionally, that role falls to close family members, but what happens when it doesn’t? In modern funerals, it is increasingly common for friends, colleagues, neighbours, or even professional celebrants to deliver a eulogy. This shift raises an important q
Mar 309 min read
Eulogies for Unspoken Goodbyes: Writing After a Sudden Loss
There is a particular kind of silence that follows a sudden loss. It is not the quiet that comes after a long illness, where grief arrives slowly, rehearsed in hospital corridors and late-night conversations. Instead, it is abrupt and disorienting; a sentence cut off mid-thought. One moment, life continues as expected; the next, everything has changed. Within that shock often sits a heavy, persistent feeling that you didn’t get to say goodbye. Photo by Junseong Lee on Unsplas
Mar 247 min read
Tips for Delivering a Eulogy Confidently
There are few tasks in life as daunting, or as profound, as delivering a eulogy. Standing before a sea of grieving faces, often including your own family, to encapsulate a lifetime of love, memories and personality into just a few minutes of speaking is a monumental ask of anyone. It is an honour, certainly, but it is also an immense pressure and something I always keep in mind when writing a eulogy for my clients. If you have been asked to speak and your immediate reaction w
Mar 169 min read
Eulogy Ideas for Non-Religious Funerals
At least here in the United Kingdom, the way we say goodbye is changing. For centuries, funerals were closely tied to religious traditions, most commonly within the framework of the Church of England or other Christian denominations. As such, the format of a funeral has historically been fairly predictable; a religious service in a church or crematorium chapel, filled with hymns, prayers and the comforting but prescribed words of the clergy. However, as the nation’s relations
Mar 99 min read
How Social Media Has Changed Grief
Over the last 2 decades or so, social media has engrained itself into every aspect of our lives.... and death. Grief no longer unfolds solely in living rooms, places of worship, or quiet walks through familiar streets. It unfolds on timelines. In group chats. In comment sections. In archived message threads we cannot quite bring ourselves to delete. Photo by Mariia Shalabaieva on Unsplash Like it or not, the internet is no longer just a tool for communication; it has become
Mar 211 min read
Is It Wrong to Refuse to Give a Eulogy?
Many of us have been there at some point.. The question lands in your inbox, a notification pops up on your phone, or a relative whispers it to you at a tense family gathering following the loss of a loved one... "We'd like you to speak at the funeral" . Being asked to deliver a eulogy is often framed as an honour, a testament to your close relationship with the deceased or your eloquence under pressure. But for the person receiving the request, it can feel less like an hono
Feb 239 min read
Find An Experienced Eulogy Writer
Losing someone dear is never easy. When the time comes to say those final words, capturing the essence of a loved one’s life can feel overwhelming, especially if writing isn't something you do often. That’s where an experienced UK eulogy writer like me steps in, offering a helping hand to craft heartfelt, memorable tributes. If you’ve ever wondered how to find the right words or simply don’t know where to start, you’re in the right place. Let’s explore how eulogy services lik
Feb 166 min read
What Is Tone & How To Use It In Your Eulogy
When I sit down with new clients to begin shaping a eulogy for someone they've lost, their first concern is usually content . What stories should it tell? What moments matter most? What needs to be said out loud? I understand that completely. But once those memories are gathered, another question quietly shapes everything that follows: "How should this sound?" That question isn't about the volume or who might read it; it's really about tone. Tone, in this context, is the emot
Feb 96 min read
The Importance of Eulogy Endings
When we gather to remember someone we love, words spoken in the present also become our bridge to the past, our way of holding onto memories that might otherwise slip away. Eulogies are those heartfelt speeches that capture the essence of a person’s life, their quirks, their kindness and their impact on us. But have you ever stopped to think about the ending of a eulogy? That final note, the closing sentiment, the last impression left in the hearts of those listening? As a p
Feb 25 min read
When Words Fail: Coping with Loss Through Writing
There is a cruel irony to grief; it arrives heavy with feeling, yet often robs us of language. My clients tell me this all the time. They'll say things like “I don’t know how to put it into words.” or “I know how I feel, I just can’t say it” which is usually where I step in. As a professional eulogy writer, I often sit with people during one of the hardest moments of their lives. They come to me because words have failed them, but they still feel an overwhelming need to say
Jan 268 min read
What is Goodbye Theory?
Have you ever had a conversation with someone that felt oddly final, even though no one spoke of endings? Have you ever looked back at your last meeting with someone, now deceased, and felt an almost haunting sense of closure, or a painful lack of it, woven into the fabric of that seemingly ordinary interaction? This experience lies at the heart of something called The Goodbye Theory , also known as The Last Meeting Theory . The fact that it has 'theory' in its name should te
Jan 199 min read
Eulogy for John Robertson: The Maestro with a Heart of Gold
Anyone who knows me knows that I'm a big Nottingham Forest fan and have been since I was about 6 years old, almost 50 years. I'm not from Nottingham, so they may seem like an unusual team to choose. The reason is just as unusual. One of my earliest memories is watching a random Northern Ireland match with my Dad (more likely it just happened to be on the TV, rather than we were consciously watching it) when someone scored for the Irish. I distinctly remember the commentator a
Jan 1210 min read
Energy Saving Tips For Your Business
For all the challenges small businesses like mine face daily, the cost of living—especially energy prices—has recently become a significant concern. Of course, we all have gas and electricity bills to pay, but they've never taken quite such a large bite out of our bank accounts as they do now! My energy bill has just gone up by £100 a month! Ouch. You don’t need me to tell you that, in recent years, the price of gas and electricity has skyrocketed and clearly continues to do
Jan 55 min read
How To Write A Eulogy For A Difficult Person
Finding honesty, compassion and balance when the relationship wasn’t simple.
Dec 1, 202510 min read
10 Tips for Delivering a Eulogy That Truly Captures a Life Well-Lived
Whilst it's one request you might never want to receive, when it does, it's both an honour and a daunting challenge: you’ve been asked to deliver a eulogy! Whether it fills you with pride, humility, or trepidation, your task sounds simple: to sum up a unique, complex, and cherished life in just a few minutes. However, the reality isn't so straightforward as the weight of doing justice to their memory, combined with the raw edge of your own grief and the pressure of public spe
Oct 27, 20258 min read
The Role of Religion in Eulogy Writing
No matter who's doing it, writing a eulogy is always a balancing act — between grief and gratitude, memory and meaning, truth and tenderness. But perhaps the most delicate balance of all comes when religion enters the frame. Whether you’re deeply devout, gently spiritual, or firmly secular, religion often plays a role in how we talk about death and legacy. It shapes not only the ceremony in which a eulogy is spoken but also the language, tone and comfort that people seek from
Oct 20, 20258 min read
The Role of Eulogies in Modern-Day Grieving
Grief in the modern world has become both more public and yet, at the same time, more private than ever before. We live in an age where loss is often shared through social media posts, WhatsApp group chats and online memorial pages, yet the true act of mourning, of sitting with the reality of someone’s absence, has become harder to find space for. Amidst all this digital noise, one tradition has remained quietly essential: the eulogy. As a professional eulogy writer, I’ve ha
Oct 13, 20256 min read
10 Ways To Look After Yourself On A Budget
The day this blog is published, 10th October 2025, is World Mental Health Day, an annual event to rise awareness for better mental health...
Oct 10, 20258 min read
How to Write a Eulogy for a Friend: A Guide to Honouring a Unique Bond
When a friend passes away, the grief carries a unique weight. It’s a loss that exists outside the structured grief of family, a void...
Oct 6, 20257 min read
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