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As the title says, welcome to my blog! This is the place to find out what's happening with PostScript as a business, but more often it's here to give you some entertainment, some knowledge, some insight on subjects I'm passionate about or, failing that, just somewhere to pass the time.
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Writing A Eulogy for a Friend: How to Honour Them Respectfully
Few things are more difficult than saying goodbye to someone who has been a true friend. Unlike immediate family, friends are the people we choose to spend our lives with. They become our confidants, our partners in adventure, our shoulder to cry on, and often the keepers of memories, even embarrassing ones, that no one else shares. When you're asked to write and deliver a eulogy for a friend, it can feel like both an enormous privilege and an overwhelming responsibility. Nat
5 days ago10 min read
Meaningful Ways to Commemorate a Loved One Throughout the Year
On the day this blog is published (20th July 2026), my Mum would have been 91 years old. It's been nearly three years since she died and I miss her every single day. This day for myself and my family is tougher than normal. Her passing, and that of my father a couple of years earlier, is the reason you're on this website, and why I decided to make a living writing eulogies for people. With that in mind, I wanted to commemorate her passing with a different kind of blog today.
Jul 208 min read
How to Support Someone Writing a Eulogy
When someone is asked to write a eulogy, it is often seen as a privilege. It is a chance to honour a loved one, celebrate their life and speak on behalf of family and friends during one of life's most emotional moments. However, what many people don't see is the enormous pressure that comes with that responsibility. As a professional eulogy writer, I've worked with countless individuals who have been entrusted with delivering a final tribute. Almost every one of them has said
Jul 139 min read
Eulogy Writing for Children: How to Explain Loss in a Tribute
Losing someone we love is one of life's most difficult experiences, but when children are involved, it can feel even harder. Alongside managing our own grief, we often find ourselves asking another challenging question: How do we explain this to them? As a professional eulogy writer, I've worked with many families who want to create a tribute that not only honours the person who has died, but also helps the youngest members of the family understand what has happened. Children
Jul 68 min read
Writing a Eulogy When You Don’t Know Where to Start
"I don't know where to begin". As a professional eulogy writer, I probably hear that statement more than any other from potential clients. Families contact me every week feeling overwhelmed because they have been asked to write or deliver a eulogy for someone they loved deeply, yet they simply cannot find the words. I understand that feeling completely. They worry that they are not good writers, that they will forget something important, or that they will somehow fail the per
Jun 297 min read
What If Eulogies Were More Honest? - Balancing Truth With Kindness
I'm sure that, at funerals across the UK and around the world, a familiar pattern often unfolds. Someone steps to the lectern, takes a deep breath, unfolds a carefully prepared sheet of paper, and begins to speak about a life well lived. The stories are warm. The memories are affectionate. The flaws, if mentioned at all, are usually reframed as charming quirks rather than serious shortcomings. "He could be a bit stubborn." "She always said exactly what she thought." "He was
Jun 2210 min read
How to Honour Someone Who Didn’t Like Fuss
I’ll never forget the call from a lady in Cheltenham earlier this year. Her mother, a former librarian named Joan, had passed away peacefully at ninety-two. “The problem is”, the daughter whispered, as if sharing a state secret, “Mum would loathe a traditional funeral. She hated being the centre of attention. She’d go bright red if you even sang ‘Happy Birthday’ to her”. This is a dilemma I encounter more often than you might think. As a professional eulogy writer, I spend m
Jun 88 min read
A Eulogy for Neil Sedaka: Love Will Keep Us Together
Anyone who knows me will tell you I'm a MASSIVE music fan. I love it. I have music playing in some capacity from waking up to going to sleep. I love all genres (well, almost all - death metal, not so much), but you'll find all styles, new and old, from hip-hop to folk and everything in between in my library. I think I got that from my late Dad. When I was younger, I used to sneak downstairs and ''borrow' many of my late father's LPs (long before CDs or streaming). I didn't kn
Jun 17 min read
Eulogy for an Estranged Father
There are few eulogies harder to write than one for a parent from whom you were estranged. When a father dies after years of distance, silence, conflict, or emotional separation, grief rarely arrives in a neat or recognisable form. Instead, it can bring confusion, guilt, anger, relief, sadness, regret, numbness, or all of them at once. People often assume that death magically repairs fractured relationships. It does not. The death of an estranged father does not suddenly eras
May 267 min read
What Is Cosmic Timing Theory?
In those first raw hours after a bereavement, time behaves strangely. It stretches into an eternity of grief, yet collapses so that the last conversation feels like it happened mere seconds ago. We find ourselves asking, “Why now?” and “Why not sooner?” or “Why couldn’t we have had more time?” These questions are as old as sorrow itself. However, an emerging framework that's part spiritual, part metaphysical, and deeply rooted in ancient observation offers a different lens. I
May 188 min read
What To Say In A Eulogy When The Deceased Doesn't Want One
At the time of publication, I’ve been writing eulogies professionally for nearly two years. Most of my clients come to me for many of the same reasons: either they are overcome by grief, crippled by the fear of public speaking, or simply too close to the words to shape them into something coherent, so I help them, and it's an honour to do so. But now and again, I receive a call with a different kind of anxiety lurking beneath the surface. “The thing is”, the caller will whisp
May 1110 min read
How to Celebrate a Life Instead of Mourning a Death
Despite what some people might think, there is no right way to grieve. For some, loss arrives as silence. For others, it comes as tears, anger, numbness, or an ache that lingers in the ordinary moments of the day like an empty chair at the dining table, a phone number still saved in your contacts or a birthday that suddenly feels heavier than it once did. Mourning is deeply personal, and no one should ever feel pressured to “move on” or to replace sadness with forced positivi
May 47 min read
What Makes A Life "Well Lived"?
What DOES make a life well-lived? There are few questions as profound or revealing, so let's take a look.
Apr 277 min read
What Makes Us Sentimental?
When we ask what makes us sentimental, I think what we are really asking is what makes us human.
Apr 207 min read
How to Talk About Dementia or Long Illness in a Eulogy
When you lose someone after a long illness, especially one like Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, grief rarely arrives in a simple, straight line. By the time the funeral takes place, many family members have been mourning for years. They’ve mourned the gradual loss of memories, of recognition, of the person’s distinctive personality. This complicated sorrow makes writing a eulogy uniquely difficult. How do you honour someone whose final years were defined by confusion
Apr 138 min read
Is a Eulogy More for the Living Than the Dead?
I believe there is a quiet paradox at the heart of every funeral. We gather to honour someone who cannot hear us. We write carefully chosen words for a person who will never read them. We stand at a lectern, voice trembling or steady, and speak into a room full of people, not to the one we have lost, but to those who remain. So I think there's a profound, maybe even unsettling question to be asked which is who, really, is a eulogy for? Traditionally, we are taught that a eulo
Apr 68 min read
Can You Read a Eulogy If You’re Not a Family Member?
Funerals are, at their heart, deeply personal occasions. They are spaces where grief, memory, love and legacy converge, often within a structured ceremony that asks someone to stand up and speak on behalf of a life lived. Traditionally, that role falls to close family members, but what happens when it doesn’t? In modern funerals, it is increasingly common for friends, colleagues, neighbours, or even professional celebrants to deliver a eulogy. This shift raises an important q
Mar 309 min read
Eulogies for Unspoken Goodbyes: Writing After a Sudden Loss
There is a particular kind of silence that follows a sudden loss. It is not the quiet that comes after a long illness, where grief arrives slowly, rehearsed in hospital corridors and late-night conversations. Instead, it is abrupt and disorienting; a sentence cut off mid-thought. One moment, life continues as expected; the next, everything has changed. Within that shock often sits a heavy, persistent feeling that you didn’t get to say goodbye. Photo by Junseong Lee on Unsplas
Mar 247 min read
Tips for Delivering a Eulogy Confidently
There are few tasks in life as daunting, or as profound, as delivering a eulogy. Standing before a sea of grieving faces, often including your own family, to encapsulate a lifetime of love, memories and personality into just a few minutes of speaking is a monumental ask of anyone. It is an honour, certainly, but it is also an immense pressure and something I always keep in mind when writing a eulogy for my clients. If you have been asked to speak and your immediate reaction w
Mar 169 min read
Eulogy Ideas for Non-Religious Funerals
At least here in the United Kingdom, the way we say goodbye is changing. For centuries, funerals were closely tied to religious traditions, most commonly within the framework of the Church of England or other Christian denominations. As such, the format of a funeral has historically been fairly predictable; a religious service in a church or crematorium chapel, filled with hymns, prayers and the comforting but prescribed words of the clergy. However, as the nation’s relations
Mar 99 min read
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