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As the title says, welcome to my blog! This is the place to find out what's happening with PostScript as a business, but more often it's here to give you some entertainment, some knowledge, some insight on subjects I'm passionate about or, failing that, just somewhere to pass the time.
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How to Honour Someone Who Didn’t Like Fuss
I’ll never forget the call from a lady in Cheltenham earlier this year. Her mother, a former librarian named Joan, had passed away peacefully at ninety-two. “The problem is”, the daughter whispered, as if sharing a state secret, “Mum would loathe a traditional funeral. She hated being the centre of attention. She’d go bright red if you even sang ‘Happy Birthday’ to her”. This is a dilemma I encounter more often than you might think. As a professional eulogy writer, I spend m
1 day ago8 min read
A Eulogy for Neil Sedaka: Love Will Keep Us Together
Anyone who knows me will tell you I'm a MASSIVE music fan. I love it. I have music playing in some capacity from waking up to going to sleep. I love all genres (well, almost all - death metal, not so much), but you'll find all styles, new and old, from hip-hop to folk and everything in between in my library. I think I got that from my late Dad. When I was younger, I used to sneak downstairs and ''borrow' many of my late father's LPs (long before CDs or streaming). I didn't kn
Jun 17 min read
Eulogy for an Estranged Father
There are few eulogies harder to write than one for a parent from whom you were estranged. When a father dies after years of distance, silence, conflict, or emotional separation, grief rarely arrives in a neat or recognisable form. Instead, it can bring confusion, guilt, anger, relief, sadness, regret, numbness, or all of them at once. People often assume that death magically repairs fractured relationships. It does not. The death of an estranged father does not suddenly eras
May 267 min read
What Is Cosmic Timing Theory?
In those first raw hours after a bereavement, time behaves strangely. It stretches into an eternity of grief, yet collapses so that the last conversation feels like it happened mere seconds ago. We find ourselves asking, “Why now?” and “Why not sooner?” or “Why couldn’t we have had more time?” These questions are as old as sorrow itself. However, an emerging framework that's part spiritual, part metaphysical, and deeply rooted in ancient observation offers a different lens. I
May 188 min read
What To Say In A Eulogy When The Deceased Doesn't Want One
At the time of publication, I’ve been writing eulogies professionally for nearly two years. Most of my clients come to me for many of the same reasons: either they are overcome by grief, crippled by the fear of public speaking, or simply too close to the words to shape them into something coherent, so I help them, and it's an honour to do so. But now and again, I receive a call with a different kind of anxiety lurking beneath the surface. “The thing is”, the caller will whisp
May 1110 min read
How to Celebrate a Life Instead of Mourning a Death
Despite what some people might think, there is no right way to grieve. For some, loss arrives as silence. For others, it comes as tears, anger, numbness, or an ache that lingers in the ordinary moments of the day like an empty chair at the dining table, a phone number still saved in your contacts or a birthday that suddenly feels heavier than it once did. Mourning is deeply personal, and no one should ever feel pressured to “move on” or to replace sadness with forced positivi
May 47 min read
What Makes A Life "Well Lived"?
What DOES make a life well-lived? There are few questions as profound or revealing, so let's take a look.
Apr 277 min read
What Makes Us Sentimental?
When we ask what makes us sentimental, I think what we are really asking is what makes us human.
Apr 207 min read
How to Talk About Dementia or Long Illness in a Eulogy
When you lose someone after a long illness, especially one like Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, grief rarely arrives in a simple, straight line. By the time the funeral takes place, many family members have been mourning for years. They’ve mourned the gradual loss of memories, of recognition, of the person’s distinctive personality. This complicated sorrow makes writing a eulogy uniquely difficult. How do you honour someone whose final years were defined by confusion
Apr 138 min read
Is a Eulogy More for the Living Than the Dead?
I believe there is a quiet paradox at the heart of every funeral. We gather to honour someone who cannot hear us. We write carefully chosen words for a person who will never read them. We stand at a lectern, voice trembling or steady, and speak into a room full of people, not to the one we have lost, but to those who remain. So I think there's a profound, maybe even unsettling question to be asked which is who, really, is a eulogy for? Traditionally, we are taught that a eulo
Apr 68 min read
Can You Read a Eulogy If You’re Not a Family Member?
Funerals are, at their heart, deeply personal occasions. They are spaces where grief, memory, love and legacy converge, often within a structured ceremony that asks someone to stand up and speak on behalf of a life lived. Traditionally, that role falls to close family members, but what happens when it doesn’t? In modern funerals, it is increasingly common for friends, colleagues, neighbours, or even professional celebrants to deliver a eulogy. This shift raises an important q
Mar 309 min read
Eulogies for Unspoken Goodbyes: Writing After a Sudden Loss
There is a particular kind of silence that follows a sudden loss. It is not the quiet that comes after a long illness, where grief arrives slowly, rehearsed in hospital corridors and late-night conversations. Instead, it is abrupt and disorienting; a sentence cut off mid-thought. One moment, life continues as expected; the next, everything has changed. Within that shock often sits a heavy, persistent feeling that you didn’t get to say goodbye. Photo by Junseong Lee on Unsplas
Mar 247 min read
Tips for Delivering a Eulogy Confidently
There are few tasks in life as daunting, or as profound, as delivering a eulogy. Standing before a sea of grieving faces, often including your own family, to encapsulate a lifetime of love, memories and personality into just a few minutes of speaking is a monumental ask of anyone. It is an honour, certainly, but it is also an immense pressure and something I always keep in mind when writing a eulogy for my clients. If you have been asked to speak and your immediate reaction w
Mar 169 min read
Eulogy Ideas for Non-Religious Funerals
At least here in the United Kingdom, the way we say goodbye is changing. For centuries, funerals were closely tied to religious traditions, most commonly within the framework of the Church of England or other Christian denominations. As such, the format of a funeral has historically been fairly predictable; a religious service in a church or crematorium chapel, filled with hymns, prayers and the comforting but prescribed words of the clergy. However, as the nation’s relations
Mar 99 min read
How Social Media Has Changed Grief
Over the last 2 decades or so, social media has engrained itself into every aspect of our lives.... and death. Grief no longer unfolds solely in living rooms, places of worship, or quiet walks through familiar streets. It unfolds on timelines. In group chats. In comment sections. In archived message threads we cannot quite bring ourselves to delete. Photo by Mariia Shalabaieva on Unsplash Like it or not, the internet is no longer just a tool for communication; it has become
Mar 211 min read
Is It Wrong to Refuse to Give a Eulogy?
Many of us have been there at some point.. The question lands in your inbox, a notification pops up on your phone, or a relative whispers it to you at a tense family gathering following the loss of a loved one... "We'd like you to speak at the funeral" . Being asked to deliver a eulogy is often framed as an honour, a testament to your close relationship with the deceased or your eloquence under pressure. But for the person receiving the request, it can feel less like an hono
Feb 239 min read
Find An Experienced Eulogy Writer
Losing someone dear is never easy. When the time comes to say those final words, capturing the essence of a loved one’s life can feel overwhelming, especially if writing isn't something you do often. That’s where an experienced UK eulogy writer like me steps in, offering a helping hand to craft heartfelt, memorable tributes. If you’ve ever wondered how to find the right words or simply don’t know where to start, you’re in the right place. Let’s explore how eulogy services lik
Feb 166 min read
What Is Tone & How To Use It In Your Eulogy
When I sit down with new clients to begin shaping a eulogy for someone they've lost, their first concern is usually content . What stories should it tell? What moments matter most? What needs to be said out loud? I understand that completely. But once those memories are gathered, another question quietly shapes everything that follows: "How should this sound?" That question isn't about the volume or who might read it; it's really about tone. Tone, in this context, is the emot
Feb 96 min read
The Importance of Eulogy Endings
When we gather to remember someone we love, words spoken in the present also become our bridge to the past, our way of holding onto memories that might otherwise slip away. Eulogies are those heartfelt speeches that capture the essence of a person’s life, their quirks, their kindness and their impact on us. But have you ever stopped to think about the ending of a eulogy? That final note, the closing sentiment, the last impression left in the hearts of those listening? As a p
Feb 25 min read
When Words Fail: Coping with Loss Through Writing
There is a cruel irony to grief; it arrives heavy with feeling, yet often robs us of language. My clients tell me this all the time. They'll say things like “I don’t know how to put it into words.” or “I know how I feel, I just can’t say it” which is usually where I step in. As a professional eulogy writer, I often sit with people during one of the hardest moments of their lives. They come to me because words have failed them, but they still feel an overwhelming need to say
Jan 268 min read
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