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As the title says, welcome to my blog! This is the place to find out what's happening with PostScript as a business, but more often it's here to give you some entertainment, some knowledge, some insight on subjects I'm passionate about or, failing that, just somewhere to pass the time.
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How to Honour Someone Who Didn’t Like Fuss
I’ll never forget the call from a lady in Cheltenham earlier this year. Her mother, a former librarian named Joan, had passed away peacefully at ninety-two. “The problem is”, the daughter whispered, as if sharing a state secret, “Mum would loathe a traditional funeral. She hated being the centre of attention. She’d go bright red if you even sang ‘Happy Birthday’ to her”. This is a dilemma I encounter more often than you might think. As a professional eulogy writer, I spend m
Jun 88 min read
Eulogy for an Estranged Father
There are few eulogies harder to write than one for a parent from whom you were estranged. When a father dies after years of distance, silence, conflict, or emotional separation, grief rarely arrives in a neat or recognisable form. Instead, it can bring confusion, guilt, anger, relief, sadness, regret, numbness, or all of them at once. People often assume that death magically repairs fractured relationships. It does not. The death of an estranged father does not suddenly eras
May 267 min read
What To Say In A Eulogy When The Deceased Doesn't Want One
At the time of publication, I’ve been writing eulogies professionally for nearly two years. Most of my clients come to me for many of the same reasons: either they are overcome by grief, crippled by the fear of public speaking, or simply too close to the words to shape them into something coherent, so I help them, and it's an honour to do so. But now and again, I receive a call with a different kind of anxiety lurking beneath the surface. “The thing is”, the caller will whisp
May 1110 min read
How to Celebrate a Life Instead of Mourning a Death
Despite what some people might think, there is no right way to grieve. For some, loss arrives as silence. For others, it comes as tears, anger, numbness, or an ache that lingers in the ordinary moments of the day like an empty chair at the dining table, a phone number still saved in your contacts or a birthday that suddenly feels heavier than it once did. Mourning is deeply personal, and no one should ever feel pressured to “move on” or to replace sadness with forced positivi
May 47 min read
How to Talk About Dementia or Long Illness in a Eulogy
When you lose someone after a long illness, especially one like Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, grief rarely arrives in a simple, straight line. By the time the funeral takes place, many family members have been mourning for years. They’ve mourned the gradual loss of memories, of recognition, of the person’s distinctive personality. This complicated sorrow makes writing a eulogy uniquely difficult. How do you honour someone whose final years were defined by confusion
Apr 138 min read
Eulogies for Unspoken Goodbyes: Writing After a Sudden Loss
There is a particular kind of silence that follows a sudden loss. It is not the quiet that comes after a long illness, where grief arrives slowly, rehearsed in hospital corridors and late-night conversations. Instead, it is abrupt and disorienting; a sentence cut off mid-thought. One moment, life continues as expected; the next, everything has changed. Within that shock often sits a heavy, persistent feeling that you didn’t get to say goodbye. Photo by Junseong Lee on Unsplas
Mar 247 min read
Tips for Delivering a Eulogy Confidently
There are few tasks in life as daunting, or as profound, as delivering a eulogy. Standing before a sea of grieving faces, often including your own family, to encapsulate a lifetime of love, memories and personality into just a few minutes of speaking is a monumental ask of anyone. It is an honour, certainly, but it is also an immense pressure and something I always keep in mind when writing a eulogy for my clients. If you have been asked to speak and your immediate reaction w
Mar 169 min read
Eulogy Ideas for Non-Religious Funerals
At least here in the United Kingdom, the way we say goodbye is changing. For centuries, funerals were closely tied to religious traditions, most commonly within the framework of the Church of England or other Christian denominations. As such, the format of a funeral has historically been fairly predictable; a religious service in a church or crematorium chapel, filled with hymns, prayers and the comforting but prescribed words of the clergy. However, as the nation’s relations
Mar 99 min read
Is It Wrong to Refuse to Give a Eulogy?
Many of us have been there at some point.. The question lands in your inbox, a notification pops up on your phone, or a relative whispers it to you at a tense family gathering following the loss of a loved one... "We'd like you to speak at the funeral" . Being asked to deliver a eulogy is often framed as an honour, a testament to your close relationship with the deceased or your eloquence under pressure. But for the person receiving the request, it can feel less like an hono
Feb 239 min read
What Is Tone & How To Use It In Your Eulogy
When I sit down with new clients to begin shaping a eulogy for someone they've lost, their first concern is usually content . What stories should it tell? What moments matter most? What needs to be said out loud? I understand that completely. But once those memories are gathered, another question quietly shapes everything that follows: "How should this sound?" That question isn't about the volume or who might read it; it's really about tone. Tone, in this context, is the emot
Feb 96 min read
The Importance of Eulogy Endings
When we gather to remember someone we love, words spoken in the present also become our bridge to the past, our way of holding onto memories that might otherwise slip away. Eulogies are those heartfelt speeches that capture the essence of a person’s life, their quirks, their kindness and their impact on us. But have you ever stopped to think about the ending of a eulogy? That final note, the closing sentiment, the last impression left in the hearts of those listening? As a p
Feb 25 min read
When Words Fail: Coping with Loss Through Writing
There is a cruel irony to grief; it arrives heavy with feeling, yet often robs us of language. My clients tell me this all the time. They'll say things like “I don’t know how to put it into words.” or “I know how I feel, I just can’t say it” which is usually where I step in. As a professional eulogy writer, I often sit with people during one of the hardest moments of their lives. They come to me because words have failed them, but they still feel an overwhelming need to say
Jan 268 min read
How To Write A Eulogy For A Difficult Person
Finding honesty, compassion and balance when the relationship wasn’t simple.
Dec 1, 202510 min read
10 Tips for Delivering a Eulogy That Truly Captures a Life Well-Lived
Whilst it's one request you might never want to receive, when it does, it's both an honour and a daunting challenge: you’ve been asked to deliver a eulogy! Whether it fills you with pride, humility, or trepidation, your task sounds simple: to sum up a unique, complex, and cherished life in just a few minutes. However, the reality isn't so straightforward as the weight of doing justice to their memory, combined with the raw edge of your own grief and the pressure of public spe
Oct 27, 20258 min read
The Role of Religion in Eulogy Writing
No matter who's doing it, writing a eulogy is always a balancing act — between grief and gratitude, memory and meaning, truth and tenderness. But perhaps the most delicate balance of all comes when religion enters the frame. Whether you’re deeply devout, gently spiritual, or firmly secular, religion often plays a role in how we talk about death and legacy. It shapes not only the ceremony in which a eulogy is spoken but also the language, tone and comfort that people seek from
Oct 20, 20258 min read
How to Write a Eulogy for a Friend: A Guide to Honouring a Unique Bond
When a friend passes away, the grief carries a unique weight. It’s a loss that exists outside the structured grief of family, a void...
Oct 6, 20257 min read
How to Handle Emotions While Delivering a Eulogy
It probably won't come as much of a surprise to you to learn that standing before a crowd to speak about someone you’ve loved and lost is...
Jul 7, 20255 min read
How To Practice Delivering A Eulogy
Delivering a eulogy can feel like one of the most daunting tasks you'll ever face. You’ve been entrusted with the honour of speaking on...
Jun 30, 20256 min read
Navigating Complex Grief When Writing a Eulogy
Losing a loved one is one of the most painful experiences a person can endure. We've all been there at some point. For some, grief...
Jun 23, 20255 min read
The Difference Between a Eulogy and an Obituary
When someone passes away, two common terms often surface in the flurry of funeral planning and public remembrance: eulogy and obituary ....
Jun 2, 20256 min read
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